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 I have been curating relationship questions for almost the last 6 months. The reasoning is to really dive deep when it comes to communication within a relationship.
I know personally, for me I tend to over communicate with people and so when it comes to really getting a sense of how someone is really feeling... for me there aren't ever enough questions!!! I want to know everything!! LOL I'd like to thinks it's because I am inquisitive... So anyway back on to the relationship questions! I would recommend playing/asking these form of relationship questions, when you have been seeing your partner for at least few months. Not necessarily to be played/asked with a young fresh relationship - especially if one of you hasn't fully gotten in tune with their feelings yet (fella's I'm not picking on you but yeah the fella's are usually the ones that we have to be slow with these questions). Reason why you would want to wait to ask these questions, is it can be a bit too deep when you really have only dipped your toe into the water of the relationship and not quite sure if you are ready to jump fully in and if you are ready to share all the feelings, just yet! LOL So here we go!
Deeper questions:
Been in a relationship for a while? Here are some questions you can ask if you are in a current long term relationship:
I hope you can uncover some positive feedback, nothing but love here! Remember to be kind to yourself and your partner... and get it on! Katelyn Photo Cred: Simone Secci  I stumbled upon an article from CNN where it stated a lot of people are marrying their partners for all the "right" reasons, expect one... Sexual attraction. I found this fascinating. People are marrying their partners because they will make an amazing parent or they are a great best friend and their families and friends get along.
But as depicted in this article sex is the one thing that disguises a romantic relationship from a platonic one. In this article they describe sex as "relationship glue" and I couldn't agree more! Check out the CNN article here: https://www.cnn.com/2022/11/08/health/sexual-attraction-importance-in-partner-wellness/index.html Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on! Katelyn Photo cred: CNN  The video above and the picture to the left was of me on July 19, 2022. These were the last moments captured in my first home. This is me telling the house I had made a home for the last nine years, good bye. (Shout out to my two friends who made me do this and filmed it!).
From June to July 2022, I sold my house and just about everything in it, packed up all my favorite things, and moved from Salt Lake City, Utah, to Las Vegas, Nevada! I moved for several reasons but here are a few: to expand my business, gain more opportunities and gain a new sense of self (nothing but gains, baby!). Now, Salt Lake will always have a special place in my heart. But it was kind of played out. I had a lot of dreams and goals. I hit many of those goals and dreams out of the park and was the "talk of the town" you might say. But like most sports games, you don't make every shot; not every hit is a home run, and some losses hurt a lot more than others. A lot of my missed shots for me were full of heartache. I was so ready to move to Las Vegas, I was so ready for EVERYTHING to change. And where there is change does come challenge. But I chose to look at the bright side. Letting go and starting over is complete freedom. Since moving to Las Vegas, I have experienced so many emotions - the good, the bad, and the ugly.. but guess what? I have me!! I’m my biggest fan, I’m my biggest supporter, I’m my own best friend and I’m having a complete blast!! Katelyn is my number 1!! Loving yourself isn’t going to get your nails done every month. It’s listening to yourself and acting on it. I know this can seem cocky to some or that I don't need anyone - that is not what I am saying. I love people and I want people around me. What I am communicating is, this is me being the best Katelyn for Katelyn first, and then Katelyn can be the best Katelyn for everyone else second! I can't show up for anyone in my life until I can show up for myself first. Have you ever had someone in your life that you tell your feelings to and they either disregarded what you say, or tell you “oh, just go get a pedi or massage” or “oh, here are some flowers, feel better”.. sometimes you just want someone to listen! Don’t be that shitty to yourself. Listen! And if you need to go, then F$&%#!? GO!!!!!! When I told someone this, they said, " Well, even though you say and listen to those lovely things to yourself, we can still be our biggest critic and our worst enemy." And I agree. This brings up a great point. Because the more you listen to positive thoughts, the less negative ones take over your mind! Yes, I know what you are thinking "Easier said than done, Katelyn!". But the sooner you start, the easier it will come. So the next time you have a terrible thought about yourself, tell yourself three positive things about yourself, and if you can't think of three things??? This is self-care and self-love. All we have is ourselves! So be the best version of yourself for YOU first, PERIOD!! After that, you will watch the rest will fall into place. And if no one has said it today - you look great, you smell great, SO BE GREAT! I LOVE YOU!!! Remember to be kind to yourself today and get it on! Katelyn  Knowing your turn on and offs can get you to really hone in on what you like.
Whether you are in a relationship or single, we can all get lost in who we are. In a relationship, we morph into a "unit force", and when we are single, we can be a little more open to influence or more closed off depending on our personalities. When discussing turn-ons and turn-offs, I encourage you to avoid talking about what you don't like and what turns you off. The negative talk can consume you and your partner or potential partner. Instead, we want to be light in the conversation and playful. Why? Because playfulness is sexy! So how do we find out what characteristics we like? Well, I stumbled upon these interesting and silly quizzes. They are especially interesting because they deal with your turn-ons! I found one quiz on the buzz feed that tells you what age you are depending on your turn-ons and turn-offs. My results were that I was "19"... funny because I usually tell friends that I'm 19 when they comment about how old we are getting LOL. Check out your Turn-Ons And Turn-Offs Will Determine Your True Age. I found another quiz on ProProfs.com: https://www.proprofs.com/quiz-school/story.php. My results were, "Cuddling, Cuddling is a romantic way of showing affection to your loved one. Whenever you do it with him/her, you feel this unusual chills running through your body." I am a big on affection, so this makes total sense LOL. So I should say, no, I don't think these quizzes are accurate and you shouldn't take them too seriously, BUT I feel it is a great way to talk (to yourself, a friend, or your partner) about what you like and don't like, even laugh on your results. Please share what you got and if you think it's right! Remember to be kind to yourself... and know your turn-ons! Photo by: elnaz asadi  Are you trying to find love to keep you warm this fall? Well, I can help! Being cooped up indoors can put us into a reclusive state, and when it comes to dating... that's the opposite of what should be happening! If you're in the dating scene, it can be countless matches, endless first dates, and meaningless small talk. So how do you break the cycle? How can you find love?! Well, if you're reading this, you are on the right path to get some help in the dating game. And you know what good for you in taking charge! Whether you're a serial dater, a hopeless romantic, or have never been kissed, here are three tips for you! 1. Make a list and check it twice - Santa is coming a little early this year! The first tip is to know what you want in a relationship and make a list. The list should be what traits and characteristics you want in a person that you could potentially date. Number each item from most important to least important. See the example below. Now, you're asking why you aren't making a list of the things you don't want? Well, it's simple really, we don't want to focus on the negative! Also, try as hard as possible to put your physical requirements at the bottom of the list. 1. Fun Personality likes to laugh 2. Accepting of my kids (or fur babies) 3. Communicates honestly 4. Understanding of feelings 5. Kissable wants to kiss and knows how 6. Active, go to the gym, or go on bike rides 7. Enjoys having people over 8. Dancing going to dance class 9. Cleanly likes to be tidy 10. Great smile Once you write your list, stick with it. If you are talking to someone and they haven't hit your numbers on your list, move on! 2. Set Boundaries A fantastic article by Mind Body Green states that no boundaries = little self-esteem, which I totally agree with! Read this article for "6 steps to set good boundaries". 3. Get a real like Hitch... a Love Coach! If you haven't seen the movie Hitch with Will Smith, stop everything you are doing and go watch it, please! So a Love Coach's purpose is to help you gain the self-esteem that you are worthy of love! And set you on the right path for a great relationship giving you tools and resources to approach the right people for you. As a Love Coach, I can help build up your confidence and teach you how to talk to someone you are interested in. And if you need help with your dating profile, I help with that too! I am offering $50 off all Coaching Packages this fall. Get this exclusive offer by using code FALL50 at check out!  How do we make more time for ourselves and our partners? My favorite saying to tell someone that is hyped up on the busyness of life is to "stop and smell the roses"... Even if there aren't any roses to smell, you have to stop and take a moment to breathe.
 Hi everyone! I wanted to talk to you about my Naked Truth Card Game. I created this game to help couples and singles identify their wants, needs, and desires and have a really good foundation for talking -about everything! Here is the concept of the game: There are 21 different characteristics of cards in the deck. On the card I show in the video, it says "Time" so whether you want more time together or less time together, this just gives your a great way to talk about that topic. How you play is a process of elimination. Go through the cards and categorize them from more important to least important and keep doing that until you get down to your top three cards. Once you get down to the last three cards, those characteristics are the most important to you - in your current situation. You can have a conversation with your partner or with yourself for future relationships. Make sure you grab yours today!! Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on!!   Happy International Women's Day! A challenged world is an alert world.
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#ChooseToChallenge Remember to be kind to yourself... and GIRLS GET IT ON!  Hi everyone! So spring is here, the sun is shining, blooming flowers in the garden, and COVID... I MEAN LOVE is in the air! LOL Check out these "5 Spring Sex Positions" from Cosmopolitan to thaw out the winter freeze in the bedroom. It may spark some ideas... or make you giggle. Whatever it does, have fun with it! Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on! Katelyn Photo: JD Mason |
AuthorAs a clinical sexuality coach, Katelyn works with individuals and couples to help them discover their best sex lives. Archives
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