 So how good are you [really] at Fallacio? Whether you feel like you don't need any help in that area or get scared at the thought of putting your partner's member in your mouth... here are some great tips to be a grade-A deep-throater!
The main issue: Gag reflux! If you have a terrible gag reflex, there are two solutions. Number 1: The short-term solution - numbing gels or sprays. Where I don't recommend these products, they are out there. Why don't I recommend them? Because they are not natural! And if you follow my methods, I am all about natural and safe materials around your body (this includes sex toys). So I know you are on the edge of your seat wondering what the other solution is... Well... Number 2: The longer-term solution, and that is desensitization. Practice makes perfect.. right?? LOL This long-term solution can take up to a month, but just like any muscle, you must train it. You can get your body well versed by gradually adjusting the back of your throat to that area being touched and not gaging. How do I do it!? (How to's of Desensitization):
Now you don't always have to use a toothbrush! You can add a little kinkiness to it as well! You can use those same steps, but instead of a toothbrush, you could use your partner's member or a dildo. Usually, your partner is more than willing to help you out with this exercise. LOL. But a dildo is fun too! Click here, if you would like to read the whole Healthline blog on this exact topic. I hope this helps your deep-throating journey! Remember to be kind to yourself... and deep throat like a champ!! Photo Cred: Deon Black
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 So I recently wrote a post about going to a sex club. Well there is a great Sex Club in Las Vegas that I highly suggest. It is called the Green Door. When I went I had a really great experience and made some friends!
One of those friends is Nacho, who is a long time patron of the club. He definently knows his way around this sex club business and even has a podcast inside the Green Door. Make sure you check it out on Youtube. I got to ask Nacho for some helpful tips for a single male first timer coming to the Green Door. I really think these helpful tips are a must read for anyone thinking of going to a sex club. Ideal times to go (or cum :)) to the Green Door: Fridays and Saturdays are the best days to go. It doesn't get busy until about midnight. But the recommendation would be to arrive around 10:30pm and walk around to get familiar with the club. Advice for a single first timer? If you’re a talkative person and not afraid to approach people. Then take that approach and don't be afraid to introduce. The longer you can have a conversation without talking about sex, the sexpert feels, have the highest chance on getting lucky. If you’re not a talker, that's ok as well. But if you go the quite route, walk around, a lot of times, you'll walk right into an opportunity. What do you talk about? A typical conversation lasts usually around the 5-8 minutes frame. Then after that, you can just be honest. You can say something like “what you’re looking for?” and ask to play. Asking is key: Once you have had a nice conversation. You will always want to ask before doing. Ask to touch and ask to play - not to have sex. The word “Play” is a gentler word and ultimately a gentler way of asking do you wanna have sex. Condoms!: Don’t forget to bring condoms, you never know what will happen. So it’s best to be prepared. Remember to be kind to yourself... and book a trip to the Green Door in LV! Photo Cred: The Green Door  I often have clients ask me, "Katelyn how can I discover more of my sexuality?" - without the possible burden of signing up for a monthly service, getting into something that might be over my head, or hunting out a local "rub n tug" salon - which is possibly breaking the law in most states.
My answer... "Go to a sex club". Where this could be a little intimating for some, I think, with the right guidance - it could be just what you need! If you found yourself growing up in an area where sex was suppressed and not talked about. You can grow up feeling that your life isn't up to its fullest potential, thinking your relationship - just isn't up to par. Or you long for something more. A sex club can really open your eyes to the world of sex and then intern you get to find out "Hey, I might want to try that!". Some of my clients have asked me "What did you feel when you were there?". I respond with "I felt understood!". Just like with anything in this world - these things should be done in moderation, but it was an experience I suggest everyone that lived a suppressed life and feels the need for more, should visit a sex club. And of course everyone will experience something different but I hope your experience was as good as mine! Another tip would be do go with an open mind, and no expectations. Sex is such a freeing experience and when people are doing it all around you all at once... that feeling is pretty liberating. Kind of like you finally cracked the code of that box you were put in growing up. The unspoken box of shame. We are adults now that box is no longer needed to control us. We can make those decisions ourselves and leave the judgment of everyone else to the way side. Because those peoples opinion doesn't matter! Say it out loud: "People's opinion's of me doesn't matter!" I hope this helps your journey, but if you want to know more, contact me!! I am happy to help you in your journey to self discovery. I LOVE YOU! Remember to be kind to yourself... and book your trip to a sex club!! Katelyn Photo Cred: Liam McGarry  Men Sharing Sex Tips.. uhhh, should we be scared? LOL
I am kidding. Both men and women have some great tips regarding S.E.X.! The people over at BuzzFeed curated a great list to give everyone some good pointers in the bedroom. Check out the article here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/men-share-sex-tips?ref=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_campaign=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_source=buzzfeed.bio&p_id=96462 Number one is hilarious and yet very creative! Remember to be kind to yourself, and get it on!! Katelyn Photo Cred: Anna Vander Stel  The purpose of a dildo is really for insertion, either anally or vaginally. You can brush up on your oral skills or you can brush up on your hand job skills. Some dildos have a suction cup base so you can put it on the wall have a good time or you're able to put it in a harness for a strap-on.
The lube that you wanna use depends on the type of toy you own. With a silicone toy you will want to use a water-based lube or oil-based lube. You will not want to use silicone lube on a silicone toy as it breaks down the material. To wash your toy simply clean it with soap and warm water and let air dry. Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on!!  I really go into detail about this very subject my 21 Keys to Deeper Love program. But to sum it up for you, let me tell you this: ANYTIME IS THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE SEX! Sex also doesn't always mean penetration. And doesn't mean it has to be the bedroom, it could be in the laundry room, shower, in the car (be aware of your surroundings!). The possibilities are endless... I found this great article by HuffPost talking all about it! "Is it better to have sex in the morning or at night?" Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on anytime! Katelyn Photo: Lukas Blazek  I have a lot of male clients that ask, "What's the average size penis?", "What is the size of penis women like?" and "How do I make my penis bigger?". These are some big questions to answer! Because every BODY is different.
First and foremost, the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft). Here are some tips on how to correctly measure your penis Now, what if you don't measure up among the average male? Or maybe you strive to be the biggest and baddest dude among your crew. Well, there is help out there for you! Here are some fun tools for your bigger penis toolbox. Entry-level Options: Pouch Contouring Boxer Briefs: Now, if women can wear butt and boob lifting garments, why can't guys wear the briefs that make them look like they are packin' a 12 pack of hotdogs in their underwear? This is a great way to boost confidence by boosting your member's appearance – both in size and shape every day! How it works: The unique technology of these briefs is a 3D pouch where you can nest your member and his two friends nicely and in separate compartments. This is also called "penis packing," – where you would put the shaft of your penis on one side of the pocket compartment, and the other side, pack the scrotum. The fabric of these briefs is breathable and doesn't wedge in the backside… and the best part is Amazon sells them! Cock Rings: I am a big advocate for cock rings! Because this is the fastest and easiest way to get a stronger, longer, and harder erection… three keywords when thinking about a stiff penis. How it works: You would stretch the cock ring over the erect penis down to the base of the penis. Alternative wearing options: you can stretch it over to the base of an erect penis and around the base scrotum or just around the scrotum. The cock rings I sell on my website are some of my hot ticket items. But being in the cock ring selling biz, I know that there isn't a one-size-fits-all, unfortunately, and usually rings only have two sizes – regular and XL. Eddie is a fabulous product if you want more of a customized fit for your cock ring. This is more specialized for a personalized fit, and it is oval-shaped rather than circular (which is the shape of all other cock rings). Check Eddie out right now! More Advanced Options: Penis Sheath Extender: This is fantastic for a quick extension for your member – both with length and girth. How it works: It is a silicone sleeve that stretches over the shaft of the penis and wraps around the scrotum – acting like a cock ring around the scrotum. Inside the sheath will be ridges, which is also pleasurable for the one wearing it. The sheath extenders I sell on my website are great because they are made of a body-safe material – so you and your partner don't need to worry about getting an infection from cheap sex toys. Check out all the details here. Penis Pump: Now, these are great to get you rock hard and "swol". Results vary depending on the individual. After several months of regular use, some users have reported gains with a noticeably increased length/ girth. How to use: Instructions vary on which pump you buy. The ones on my website are great with suction and use water. Here is the pump I recommend on my site. IMPORTANT: Be sure to get a pump with a quick-release feature. If things go south, you can have an immediate release to save your member from getting damaged. For more permanent changes: There are surgical procedures and even exercises that you can perform, but there are some terrible side effects, such as penile injury and erectile dysfunction. So without damaging your penis, I would say the best route is more of easy, quick remedies and general body acceptance. We still have not discussed "What is the size of penis women like?". I think you have a lot of items to do homework on already, so check out my other blog post on this very subject when you have some more time! Moral of the story is this: Make your sex an experience. Work your member like it's the biggest and baddest in the land! Because confidence is one of the best ingredients for getting your partner to experience new levels of orgasms! I hope this helps on your journey to being the biggest, baddest, and "swollest" man you can be! Remember to be kind to yourself and keep it hard! Katelyn Photo by: charlesdeluvio  Did you know the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft)?
So do you measure up?? Here are some tips to help you correctly measure your member.
Photo by: Diana Polekhina Diana Polekhina Resize image  I get asked a lot "What is the size of penis women like?". Well, again, I answer that with, every BODY is different.
The quick answer is most women's nerve endings are only about two inches up the vaginal canal – meaning bigger sometimes doesn't mean anything other than a guy with a big sausage, which can be intimidating for some women. Another general observation is that the girth of one's member is more important to a gal rather than how long his member is. A cock ring, sheath extender, or a penis pump can quickly fix all that. Fun Fact: You can get most girls off by outer clitoral stimulation and/or with one or two fingers inserted in the vagina using a "come here" finger motion. With women's vaginas, we are all built differently. So it's important to check in with your partner and see if they like what you are doing. Also, stay in the moment with your partner and do not think about how small your member is and that your partner is probably not into it. Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on! Katelyn Photo by: Sharon McCutcheon |
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