Blog of Love

Let’s talk about something I’ve always believed in — kissing. Not just the passionate kind, but the everyday, small-but-mighty kisses that keep us connected to our partner.

According to a recent Vice article (www.vice.com/en/article/couples-who-skip-this-daily-ritual-are-more-likely-to-fall-apart/), couples who don’t kiss regularly are more likely to experience a breakdown in their relationship. And honestly? I’m not surprised.

Kissing releases oxytocin, often called the love hormone. It’s the same hormone that helps moms bond with their babies, and it’s responsible for that warm, safe, fuzzy feeling we get when we feel close to someone we love. It helps us build trust, reduce stress, and deepen emotional intimacy.

But here's the thing — many couples slowly stop kissing over time. They get caught up in routines, distracted by the stress of work, parenting, or just the general chaos of life. A peck on the cheek becomes optional. A real kiss? Rare.

And yet, that daily kiss — even just 10 seconds of real, present connection — could be the very thing holding your relationship together. It’s not about being overly romantic or dramatic. It’s about the micro-moments that say: “I see you. I choose you. I’m here.”

When I coach clients who feel disconnected in their relationships, one of the first things I ask is: When was the last time you really kissed your partner? Not a quick goodbye, not a distracted smooch. But a true kiss — one where you stop, breathe, and connect.

The Vice article (www.vice.com/en/article/couples-who-skip-this-daily-ritual-are-more-likely-to-fall-apart/) hits on something I’ve seen time and time again — when couples stop kissing, the emotional gap grows. And when kissing comes back? The spark often follows.

So here’s my challenge to you:
Kiss your partner today. Really kiss them.
Not out of habit, but with intention.

You’d be amazed at what a daily kiss can unlock — more affection, better communication, and a renewed sense of closeness. It’s a small act, but it speaks volumes.

Because love isn't just built in the big moments.
It’s built in the daily rituals we choose to keep.

Remember to be kind to yourself.. and get some chapstick. 
Katelyn 

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Okay, we need to talk about this --
A recent NY Post article (nypost.com/2025/06/07/lifestyle/ozempic-penis-male-users-reveal-shocking-change-to-their-genitalia-after-injecting-weight-loss-shot/) reports that men using Ozempic (and other semaglutide-based injections) for weight loss are claiming… their penises look bigger.

Yep. You read that right.

Now before you go thinking this is some miracle penis pill in disguise — let’s take a step back. The so-called “growth” is less about actual changes to the organ itself and more about body fat loss. When belly and pubic area fat drops, everything looks more prominent. It’s an illusion of size, not some overnight anatomical miracle.

And while some men might be celebrating their new-found confidence, I’ve gotta say it: This Ozempic trend is kinda scary.

Don’t get me wrong — I know how powerful confidence is, especially when it comes to love, sex, and how we feel in our bodies. But I also know that there’s no quick fix for self-love, and definitely not for sexual confidence.

Semaglutide is a medication originally created for managing diabetes. Now it’s being used off-label for fast weight loss — and while it may seem like a “magic solution,” the side effects are real. Nausea, malnutrition, muscle loss, even the potential for long-term health complications. And now? We’re literally talking about our genitals changing shape as a side effect of beauty culture.

Let’s just pause for a second and ask: What are we really chasing?

As someone who works with men on building confidence, healing intimacy, and having great sex — I’ll tell you this:
No injection will fix what’s missing in your relationship or how you feel about your body. And it definitely won’t create the kind of lasting sexual connection you actually want.

Instead of putting your health on the line for aesthetics, try this:

• Learn how to reconnect with your body through movement, breath, and pleasure.
• Heal the shame and self-doubt that keeps you disconnected.
• Build real confidence that doesn’t depend on a number on a scale — or an illusion in the mirror.

Because the things we do for beauty? They should never cost us our well-being.

And penis size? Let’s just say real attraction goes way deeper than that.

Remember to be kind to yourself... and your penis
Katelyn

Photo Cred: https://unsplash.com/@yunmai

Lately, I’ve had a lot of conversations about boundaries — whether it’s with a friend, a family member, or someone you’re in a “situationship” with.

And let me say this loud and clear: You are allowed to protect your energy.

We often feel guilty for pulling back or saying no — especially when someone has been close to us. But here’s the truth: just because someone used to be in your inner circle doesn’t mean they get a permanent pass to drain you.

There are different levels of closeness in our lives --

• Our inner circle (the ones we share our heart with),
• Acquaintances (friendly, but not deep),
• And then the people we casually interact with — like the barista or the grocery store clerk.

But what happens when someone in your inner circle stops showing up for you — emotionally, mentally, energetically — in the way you show up for them?

Most of us don’t shift that person to a different level.
Instead, we keep giving. Hoping. Over-explaining.
And we end up disappointed. Over and over again.

Here’s where boundaries come in.

According to HelpGuide (www.helpguide.org/relationships/social-connection/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-relationshipsn-relationships), setting healthy boundaries means recognizing your limits, communicating them clearly, and protecting your time, energy, and emotional well-being. It’s not about cutting people off to be cold — it’s about deciding what level of access they get based on how they show up.

We need to normalize adjusting someone’s “seat” in our life when they no longer treat us with respect, effort, or care. That doesn’t make you bitter. It makes you wise.

And guess what? You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to you.
Not a friend who flakes.
Not a parent who oversteps.
Not someone you’re dating who wants all the benefits without real commitment.

Boundaries are not walls — they’re filters.
They let in what nourishes you and keep out what drains you.

So here’s your reminder:
If you keep giving energy and time to someone who doesn’t reciprocate — it’s time to take note.
Recenter.
Recalibrate.
And reassign their role in your life if needed.

Because your peace, energy, and emotional clarity are too valuable to waste.

Remember to be kind to yourself and protect your energy!
Katelyn 

Photo cred: ​https://unsplash.com/@erinlarsonphotography

Struggles with intimacy and connection can happen to anyone, whether you’re in a relationship that’s lost its spark, navigating life after divorce, or frustrated with dating. These challenges can feel isolating—but you don’t have to face them alone.

For the past six years, I’ve worked with men and women to rebuild their confidence, improve intimacy, and create meaningful, lasting connections. While much of my focus is on helping men aged 30 to 60, my coaching is open to anyone looking to strengthen their relationships or prepare for lasting love.

Through my one-on-one love and wellness coaching, I provide the tools and support to help you:

• Reignite Passion: Whether it’s a long-term relationship or a new one, learn how to bring connection and excitement back.
• Boost Stamina and Confidence: Feel more in control and capable in every aspect of your intimate life.
• Create Meaningful Connections: Build relationships that are fulfilling and built to last.

What sets my coaching apart?

• Judgment-Free Support: There’s no shame here—just a safe, encouraging space to grow.
• Private, Confidential Sessions: We’ll connect over the phone, making it easier to open up and focus on your goals.
• Real, Lasting Results: In just a few months, you can experience transformative growth in your confidence and relationships.

If you’ve hesitated to reach out for help, know that change is possible. You deserve a fulfilling, passionate love life, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

Commplete my FREE Assessment, and we can schedule a complimentary phone call to discuss how I can help transform your relationships and love life.

Remember to be kind to yourself and get some love back into your life! 
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​Men Sharing Sex Tips.. uhhh, should we be scared? LOL 

I am kidding. Both men and women have some great tips regarding S.E.X.! 

The people over at BuzzFeed curated a great list to give everyone some good pointers in the bedroom. Check out the article here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/men-share-sex-tips?ref=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_campaign=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_source=buzzfeed.bio&p_id=96462

Number one is hilarious and yet very creative! 

Remember to be kind to yourself, and get it on!! 
Katelyn 

​Photo Cred: Anna Vander Stel 

​Kegel exercises aren't just for pregnant women. They help everyone and can be a form of meditation and being in the moment. Very important for the mind and body!  

For men, it can help with incontinence and help get a stronger erection. It also helps with the control of your erection. Do I have your attention yet? 

It helps with incontinence and pelvic pain for women - either chronic pain, pain during sex, and menstrual cramping or vaginismus. Women who have had children tend to lack feeling down in the pelvic region throughout the years after bearing a child. Also check out my blog on Kegel Balls. 

One way to do an easy Kegel are knowing what muscles to use. One of the muscles you use is the muscle you use when you go pee and you stop peeing midstream. Next time you go pee, try it. 

Here is a tip to do a Kegel: Hold the Kegel for about 6 seconds, then release slowly for 6 seconds and repeat for about 4 to 6 times a day. You can do Kegels while you're on the phone, typing, doing your work or homework, or waiting in line at the grocery store (and no one will know). 

The more you do these, the stronger you will make your pelvic floor, which means stronger orgasms and more feeling in the vagina and penis! (all good things) 

Here are some excellent video how-to guides if you haven't been exposed to Kegel exercises before.

• How to do Kegels for men
• How to do Kegels for women

Before I had a hysterectomy, I had the privilege of going to a pelvic floor physical therapist. And it was an eye-opening experience. She was able to help me prepare for surgery and able to rehab me once the surgery was completed. So if you really have any problems in your pelvic region, I would highly encourage seeing a Pelvic Floor PT. They can give you lifelong techniques that can greatly impact your pelvic floor health. 

Here is an article from Femina.com where they talk about the "4 Reasons You Should Start Doing Kegels Regularly". A MUST-READ! 

Remember to be kind to yourself and do a Kegel! 

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I have a lot of male clients that ask, "What's the average size penis?", "What is the size of penis women like?" and "How do I make my penis bigger?". These are some big questions to answer! Because every BODY is different.

First and foremost, the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft). Here are some tips on how to correctly measure your penis

Now, what if you don't measure up among the average male? Or maybe you strive to be the biggest and baddest dude among your crew. Well, there is help out there for you! Here are some fun tools for your bigger penis toolbox.

Entry-level Options: 

Pouch Contouring Boxer Briefs: Now, if women can wear butt and boob lifting garments, why can't guys wear the briefs that make them look like they are packin' a 12 pack of hotdogs in their underwear? This is a great way to boost confidence by boosting your member's appearance – both in size and shape every day! How it works: The unique technology of these briefs is a 3D pouch where you can nest your member and his two friends nicely and in separate compartments. This is also called "penis packing," – where you would put the shaft of your penis on one side of the pocket compartment, and the other side, pack the scrotum. The fabric of these briefs is breathable and doesn't wedge in the backside… and the best part is Amazon sells them! 

Cock Rings: I am a big advocate for cock rings! Because this is the fastest and easiest way to get a stronger, longer, and harder erection… three keywords when thinking about a stiff penis. How it works: You would stretch the cock ring over the erect penis down to the base of the penis. Alternative wearing options: you can stretch it over to the base of an erect penis and around the base scrotum or just around the scrotum. The cock rings I sell on my website are some of my hot ticket items. But being in the cock ring selling biz, I know that there isn't a one-size-fits-all, unfortunately, and usually rings only have two sizes – regular and XL.

Eddie is a fabulous product if you want more of a customized fit for your cock ring. This is more specialized for a personalized fit, and it is oval-shaped rather than circular (which is the shape of all other cock rings). Check Eddie out right now! 

More Advanced Options: 

Penis Sheath Extender: This is fantastic for a quick extension for your member – both with length and girth. How it works: It is a silicone sleeve that stretches over the shaft of the penis and wraps around the scrotum – acting like a cock ring around the scrotum. Inside the sheath will be ridges, which is also pleasurable for the one wearing it. The sheath extenders I sell on my website are great because they are made of a body-safe material – so you and your partner don't need to worry about getting an infection from cheap sex toys. Check out all the details here. 

Penis Pump: Now, these are great to get you rock hard and "swol". Results vary depending on the individual. After several months of regular use, some users have reported gains with a noticeably increased length/ girth. How to use: Instructions vary on which pump you buy. The ones on my website are great with suction and use water. Here is the pump I recommend on my site. 
IMPORTANT: Be sure to get a pump with a quick-release feature. If things go south, you can have an immediate release to save your member from getting damaged. 

For more permanent changes: There are surgical procedures and even exercises that you can perform, but there are some terrible side effects, such as penile injury and erectile dysfunction. So without damaging your penis, I would say the best route is more of easy, quick remedies and general body acceptance.

We still have not discussed "What is the size of penis women like?". I think you have a lot of items to do homework on already, so check out my other blog post on this very subject when you have some more time! 

Moral of the story is this: Make your sex an experience. Work your member like it's the biggest and baddest in the land! Because confidence is one of the best ingredients for getting your partner to experience new levels of orgasms!

I hope this helps on your journey to being the biggest, baddest, and "swollest" man you can be! 

Remember to be kind to yourself and keep it hard! 
Katelyn

Photo by: charlesdeluvio

Did you know the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft)?

So do you measure up?? Here are some tips to help you correctly measure your member. 

• How to correctly measure your member's length: Take measuring tape and measure from the base of the penis.
• How to correctly measure your member's girth: Take a measuring tape and wrap it around the thickest part of the shaft.
• Here is more info you can check out about how to measure your member: https://www.verywellhealth.com/how-to-measure-your-penis-size-906786 correctly
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I hope this helps your measuring journey! Remember to be kind to yourself and measure your member! 

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​So you know how coconut water is amazing for keeping us hydrated and has several nutrients our bodies need to keep healthy? 

Well, what if I were to tell you...