Blog of Love

Struggles with intimacy and connection can happen to anyone, whether you’re in a relationship that’s lost its spark, navigating life after divorce, or frustrated with dating. These challenges can feel isolating—but you don’t have to face them alone.

For the past six years, I’ve worked with men and women to rebuild their confidence, improve intimacy, and create meaningful, lasting connections. While much of my focus is on helping men aged 30 to 60, my coaching is open to anyone looking to strengthen their relationships or prepare for lasting love.

Through my one-on-one love and wellness coaching, I provide the tools and support to help you:

• Reignite Passion: Whether it’s a long-term relationship or a new one, learn how to bring connection and excitement back.
• Boost Stamina and Confidence: Feel more in control and capable in every aspect of your intimate life.
• Create Meaningful Connections: Build relationships that are fulfilling and built to last.

What sets my coaching apart?

• Judgment-Free Support: There’s no shame here—just a safe, encouraging space to grow.
• Private, Confidential Sessions: We’ll connect over the phone, making it easier to open up and focus on your goals.
• Real, Lasting Results: In just a few months, you can experience transformative growth in your confidence and relationships.

If you’ve hesitated to reach out for help, know that change is possible. You deserve a fulfilling, passionate love life, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

Commplete my FREE Assessment, and we can schedule a complimentary phone call to discuss how I can help transform your relationships and love life.

Remember to be kind to yourself and get some love back into your life! 
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In addition to the last post I wrote about the essence of healthy friendships, let's explore how these same principles can strengthen romantic relationships. Both types of connections thrive on mutual respect, open communication, and unwavering support, forming the foundation for lasting bonds and personal growth.

Finding Common Ground: What Both Friendships and Romantic Relationships Need

1. Mutual Respect and Trust: Just like in friendships, mutual respect and trust are the cornerstone of healthy romantic relationships. It’s about honoring each other’s boundaries, decisions, and individuality, which builds trust and paves the way for intimacy.
2. Open Communication: Clear communication is key in both friendships and romantic relationships. It’s not just about talking, but also listening actively, sharing thoughts and feelings honestly, and resolving disagreements with understanding. Good communication deepens understanding and strengthens emotional connections.
3. Support and Encouragement: Being there for each other through thick and thin is essential whether you’re friends or partners. Supporting each other during tough times, celebrating successes, and cheering on personal growth strengthens the bond and builds resilience.
4. Balanced Give-and-Take: Both friendships and romantic relationships thrive when there’s a balance of give-and-take. It’s about showing appreciation, being there for each other, and ensuring both parties feel valued and cared for.
5. Shared Interests and Values: Having common interests and values brings depth to relationships. Whether it’s enjoying the same activities or sharing similar beliefs, these shared experiences create connection and make time together more meaningful.

Applying Friendship Principles to Romantic Relationships

1. Being Present: Just like you make time for your friends, make time for your partner. Show up for important moments, be there for conversations, and offer your support. Being present shows you care and strengthens your connection.
2. Practicing Empathy: Understanding your partner’s feelings and perspective is crucial. Empathy helps navigate challenges with compassion and builds a deeper bond based on understanding each other’s emotions.
3. Respecting Boundaries: Boundaries are important in any relationship. Respect your partner’s boundaries, communicate your own clearly, and create a safe and respectful space where both of you feel comfortable being yourselves.
4. Making Time Together: Quality time is essential in romantic relationships. Whether it’s going on dates, exploring new hobbies together, or simply enjoying each other’s company, these shared experiences strengthen your bond and nurture intimacy.
5. Expressing Gratitude: Regularly appreciate and acknowledge your partner’s efforts and qualities. Expressing gratitude fosters positivity, strengthens the relationship, and reminds your partner how much they mean to you.

In Conclusion

Understanding what makes friendships healthy can greatly enhance romantic relationships. By applying mutual respect, open communication, support, balance, and shared values, couples can build deeper connections and create lasting bonds. Embrace these principles with your partner, invest in your relationship, and watch it grow stronger over time. Just like with friends, nurturing your romantic connection with care and commitment enriches your lives and brings joy and fulfillment.

Remember to be kind to your self and have some great relationships!

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Love is a universal experience, transcending cultures, languages, and generations. It's a force that binds us, inspires us, and shapes our lives in countless ways. While romantic love often takes center stage in movies and stories, the essence of love extends far beyond candlelit dinners and whispered sweet nothings. It permeates every aspect of our lives, manifesting in diverse and profound ways.

The Many Faces of Love

At its core, love is about connection. It's the bond between parents and children, the loyalty of lifelong friends, and the compassion we show to strangers. It's the selfless acts of kindness, the sacrifices we make for those we care about, and the empathy we extend to others in their times of need. These everyday expressions of love form the foundation of a compassionate and connected world.

Self-Love: The Cornerstone of Healthy Relationships

One of the most overlooked yet essential forms of love is self-love. It’s about recognizing our worth, taking care of our physical and emotional well-being, and embracing our flaws and strengths alike. When we love ourselves, we set the stage for healthy, fulfilling relationships with others. Self-love empowers us to set boundaries, communicate openly, and cultivate deeper connections.

The Transformative Power of Love

Love has the power to heal and transform. It encourages personal growth and pushes us to become better versions of ourselves. In times of adversity, love provides the strength to overcome challenges and the resilience to keep moving forward. Whether it's the unwavering support of a partner, the comforting presence of a friend, or the unconditional love of a pet, these connections remind us that we are never alone.

Building a World Filled with Love

Creating a world filled with love starts with small, everyday actions. It’s about practicing gratitude, showing appreciation, and making time for the people who matter most. It’s about listening with empathy, speaking with kindness, and acting with compassion. By fostering an environment of love and respect, we can create a ripple effect that touches everyone around us.

Conclusion

Love is not just an emotion; it’s a way of living. It’s the driving force behind our most meaningful relationships and the foundation of a compassionate society. By embracing love in all its forms, we can enrich our lives and the lives of those around us. So, let’s celebrate love every day, in every way, and watch as it transforms our world into a more connected, caring, and joyful place.

Remember to be kind to yourself and grasp the understanding of love!

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I have been curating relationship questions for almost the last 6 months. The reasoning is to really dive deep when it comes to communication within a relationship.

I know personally, for me I tend to over communicate with people and so when it comes to really getting a sense of how someone is really feeling... for me there aren't ever enough questions!!! I want to know everything!! LOL I'd like to thinks it's because I am inquisitive... 

So anyway back on to the relationship questions! I would recommend playing/asking these form of relationship questions, when you have been seeing your partner for at least few months. Not necessarily to be played/asked with a young fresh relationship - especially if one of you hasn't fully gotten in tune with their feelings yet (fella's I'm not picking on you but yeah the fella's are usually the ones that we have to be slow with these questions).

Reason why you would want to wait to ask these questions, is it can be a bit too deep when you really have only dipped your toe into the water of the relationship and not quite sure if you are ready to jump fully in and if you are ready to share all the feelings, just yet! LOL 

So here we go!

1. If you had a superpower what would it be? Teleport, invisible, read minds, see the future 
2. When are you the happiest? 
3. What do think about the idea of “the one”?
4. What’s something you wanted in the past but you don’t anymore? 
5. What something people do in relationships that you don’t want to do in your next relationship? 
6. On a scale from 0-10 how afraid are you of being hurt? 
7. What do you need to improve, learn, or stop doing in order to potentially have a successful romantic relationship? 
8. What is your most toxic trait? 
9. How has fear and Insecurity impacted your past decisions or actions in a romantic relationship? 

Deeper questions: 

1. What do you think connects us? 
2. What are you hesitant to tell me? 
3. What don’t you understand about me? 

Been in a relationship for a while? Here are some questions you can ask if you are in a current long term relationship: 

1. What is the hardest part of our relationship right now? 
2. How do you need to be shown love? 
3. What are the greatest fears tied to our relationship? 
4. Do you think I understand you most of the time? 

I hope you can uncover some positive feedback, nothing but love here!

​Remember to be kind to yourself and your partner... and get it on! 
Katelyn 

Photo Cred: Simone Secci

Now that we have almost spent all of our tax return money... or still upset with the IRS. Let's talk about you and your "Bae" going out for a lovely evening out!

WAIT!

​What about the money situation?! Date nights can be expensive, and many of us are "ballin on a budget"! LOL

So came up with some tips for cheap date nights: 

Netflix and Chill? - Yeah, staying in can be fun! So switch it up, make a bed on the floor, get some favorite snacks or get your favorite tacos from the local taco truck down the street, and curl up and watch a comedy. Maybe you want a sexy option? Still make a bed on the floor, but this party's attire is bra and underwear ONLY. Pick a sexy movie like Basic Instinct, Cruel Intentions, Love and Basketball, or Wild Things (I think I might be stuck in the '90s, but these are some classics!). 

Game Night - Need some games or other fun activities? Check out some games I made or check out some other objects that you can introduce in the bedroom. :)

Watch A Sunrise Or Sunset - Fact! The most beautiful show is right above of us! So seize the moment and take your lovey on a road trip to find the best view in your town to watch a sunrise or sunset. 

Stargazing With Your Boo - Like watching a sunset, go outside once it's dark with a lawn chair and a blanket and look up! Check out this article for some best stargazing apps to help you find the best location and help you navigate the night sky!: https://www.space.com/best-stargazing-apps

Want some more tips?? Check out this Forbes article I found on how to plan a date on a budget: https://www.forbes.com/advisor/banking/how-to-plan-a-budgeting-date-night-with-your-spouse/

Remember to be kind to yourself... and be a cheap date! 
Katelyn 

​Photo: Heather Ford

Are you trying to find love to keep you warm this fall? Well, I can help!

Being cooped up indoors can put us into a reclusive state, and when it comes to dating... that's the opposite of what should be happening! 

If you're in the dating scene, it can be countless matches, endless first dates, and meaningless small talk. So how do you break the cycle? How can you find love?! Well, if you're reading this, you are on the right path to get some help in the dating game. And you know what good for you in taking charge!  

Whether you're a serial dater, a hopeless romantic, or have never been kissed, here are three tips for you! 

1. Make a list and check it twice - Santa is coming a little early this year! 
The first tip is to know what you want in a relationship and make a list. The list should be what traits and characteristics you want in a person that you could potentially date. Number each item from most important to least important. See the example below. Now, you're asking why you aren't making a list of the things you don't want? Well, it's simple really, we don't want to focus on the negative! Also, try as hard as possible to put your physical requirements at the bottom of the list.

    1.    Fun Personality likes to laugh
    2.    Accepting of my kids (or fur babies) 
    3.    Communicates honestly
    4.    Understanding of feelings
    5.    Kissable wants to kiss and knows how
    6.    Active, go to the gym, or go on bike rides
    7.    Enjoys having people over 
    8.    Dancing going to dance class
    9.    Cleanly likes to be tidy
    10.    Great smile

Once you write your list, stick with it. If you are talking to someone and they haven't hit your numbers on your list, move on!

2. Set Boundaries
A fantastic article by Mind Body Green states that no boundaries = little self-esteem, which I totally agree with! Read this article for "6 steps to set good boundaries". 

3. Get a real like Hitch... a Love Coach! 
If you haven't seen the movie Hitch with Will Smith, stop everything you are doing and go watch it, please! So a Love Coach's purpose is to help you gain the self-esteem that you are worthy of love! And set you on the right path for a great relationship giving you tools and resources to approach the right people for you. As a Love Coach, I can help build up your confidence and teach you how to talk to someone you are interested in. And if you need help with your dating profile, I help with that too! 

I am offering $50 off all Coaching Packages this fall. Get this exclusive offer by using code FALL50 at check out! 

Hi everyone!

If you have been single at any point during the last year, you have probably felt the wrath of COVID in your dating game.

Some people agree with sending a mandatory health screening to all prospective lovers, and some other people are offended that you even asked.

But the ones who respond with a safe, socially distanced response. Well, those are the actions that have become more of a turn-on for a lot of people! 

The Washington Post posted an article, "What's Sexy in a Pandemic?" that talks about the ins and outs of dating during the pandemic. It's both insightful and funny. Definitely, a must read​!

I sum it up to this: Be safe, but be happy!!! We cannot fear the dark cloud of being alone. Because if you aren't happy alone, you won't be satisfied with someone else.

Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on... 😷
​Katelyn 

​Photo: Julian Wan

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