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So how good are you [really] at Fallacio? Whether you feel like you don't need any help in that area or get scared at the thought of putting your partner's member in your mouth... here are some great tips to be a grade-A deep-throater! 

The main issue: Gag reflux!

If you have a terrible gag reflex, there are two solutions. 

Number 1: The short-term solution - numbing gels or sprays. Where I don't recommend these products, they are out there. Why don't I recommend them? Because they are not natural! And if you follow my methods, I am all about natural and safe materials around your body (this includes sex toys).

So I know you are on the edge of your seat wondering what the other solution is... Well...

Number 2: The longer-term solution, and that is desensitization. Practice makes perfect.. right?? LOL 

This long-term solution can take up to a month, but just like any muscle, you must train it. You can get your body well versed by gradually adjusting the back of your throat to that area being touched and not gaging. 

How do I do it!? (How to's of Desensitization):

1. You will brush your tongue with a soft-bristled toothbrush until you hit the area near where you gag. Then you would brush that area for about 15 seconds. You would repeat this step daily. 
2. Once you reach a point where that area doesn't bug you anymore, go further. Continue with step one until that further area doesn't bug you, and repeat further and further until you hit the back of your tongue (where you no longer can see your tongue). 

Now you don't always have to use a toothbrush! You can add a little kinkiness to it as well! You can use those same steps, but instead of a toothbrush, you could use your partner's member or a dildo. 

Usually, your partner is more than willing to help you out with this exercise. LOL. But a dildo is fun too!  

Click here, if you would like to read the whole Healthline blog on this exact topic.

I hope this helps your deep-throating journey! 

Remember to be kind to yourself... and deep throat like a champ!! 

Photo Cred: Deon Black

So I recently wrote a post about going to a sex club. Well there is a great Sex Club in Las Vegas that I highly suggest. It is called the Green Door. When I went I had a really great experience and made some friends!  

One of those friends is Nacho, who is a long time patron of the club. He definently knows his way around this sex club business and even has a podcast inside the Green Door. Make sure you check it out on Youtube.

I got to ask Nacho for some helpful tips for a single male first timer coming to the Green Door. I really think these helpful tips are a must read for anyone thinking of going to a sex club.  

Ideal times to go (or cum :)) to the Green Door: 
Fridays and Saturdays are the best days to go. It doesn't get busy until about midnight. But the recommendation would be to arrive around 10:30pm and walk around to get familiar with the club. 

Advice for a single first timer? 
If you’re a talkative person and not afraid to approach people. Then take that approach and don't be afraid to introduce. 

The longer you can have a conversation without talking about sex, the sexpert feels, have the highest chance on getting lucky. 

If you’re not a talker, that's ok as well. But if you go the quite route, walk around, a lot of times, you'll walk right into an opportunity.

What do you talk about? 
A typical conversation lasts usually around the 5-8 minutes frame. Then after that, you can just be honest. You can say something like “what you’re looking for?” and ask to play.  

Asking is key: 
Once you have had a nice conversation. You will always want to ask before doing. Ask to touch and ask to play - not to have sex. The word “Play” is a gentler word and ultimately a gentler way of asking do you wanna have sex.

Condoms!:
Don’t forget to bring condoms, you never know what will happen. So it’s best to be prepared.

Remember to be kind to yourself... and book a trip to the Green Door in LV! 

Photo Cred: The Green Door

I often have clients ask me, "Katelyn how can I discover more of my sexuality?" - without the possible burden of signing up for a monthly service, getting into something that might be over my head, or hunting out a local "rub n tug" salon - which is possibly breaking the law in most states.

My answer... "Go to a sex club". Where this could be a little intimating for some, I think, with the right guidance - it could be just what you need!

If you found yourself growing up in an area where sex was suppressed and not talked about. You can grow up feeling that your life isn't up to its fullest potential, thinking your relationship - just isn't up to par. Or you long for something more. A sex club can really open your eyes to the world of sex and then intern you get to find out "Hey, I might want to try that!". 

Some of my clients have asked me "What did you feel when you were there?". I respond with "I felt understood!". Just like with anything in this world - these things should be done in moderation, but it was an experience I suggest everyone that lived a suppressed life and feels the need for more, should visit a sex club. And of course everyone will experience something different but I hope your experience was as good as mine! Another tip would be do go with an open mind, and no expectations. 

Sex is such a freeing experience and when people are doing it all around you all at once... that feeling is pretty liberating. Kind of like you finally cracked the code of that box you were put in growing up. The unspoken box of shame.

We are adults now that box is no longer needed to control us. We can make those decisions ourselves and leave the judgment of everyone else to the way side. Because those peoples opinion doesn't matter! 

Say it out loud: "People's opinion's of me doesn't matter!" 

I hope this helps your journey, but if you want to know more, contact me!! I am happy to help you in your journey to self discovery. 

I LOVE YOU! 

Remember to be kind to yourself... and book your trip to a sex club!! 
Katelyn 

Photo Cred: Liam McGarry

The morning quickie... what a dream, right?! It boosts dopamine and oxytocin, making you feel like a million bucks for the rest of the day! Well, that is if you can get in the mood! 

Some studies have even calculated that women climax easier in the morning rather than throughout the day... maybe because there is less on the mind? 

Whether you are a sex pistol or as dry as a door knob in the morning, the people over at Lifestyle Asia stumbled upon "Sex Coffee". For coffee lovers, this is a win! It is coffee that is infused with Maca Root. Check out the full article about sex coffee here: https://www.lifestyleasia.com/hk/living/wellness/give-your-morning-coffee-a-sex-twist-with-sex-coffee/

Maca Root has many health benefits, and raising one's libido is one of the top health benefits. Here is the article from Healthline that you can read up on the erotic root: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/benefits-of-maca-root#1.-May-increase-libido

Whatever you choose to indulge in, make sure you keep in sexy, classy, and silly... those three ingredients are also a sure way to get in the mood a little more. 

Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on... and maybe drink some sex coffee :)

Photo Cred: Lifestyle Asia

Even if you are married or have been in a long-term relationship. It is still so important to keep passion and desire alive. An easy way to do that is with the classic "Date Night". 

CNN actually wrote an article that has some great tips and tricks for creating a Check it out here: https://www.cnn.com/2022/05/30/health/date-night-returns-relationship-wellness/index.html

I really liked the idea of a sleepover night. It got my ideas of what different things you can do on a blow-up mattress in the front room! (make sure the kids are gone for that night!) LOL 

​The biggest thing I can say is make sure you kiss each other a few times during the date. This releases the love hormone (oxytocin) which is a great way to bond with your partner! 

Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on... and make a date night! 
Katelyn 

Photo Cred: Hitesh Dewasi

​Men Sharing Sex Tips.. uhhh, should we be scared? LOL 

I am kidding. Both men and women have some great tips regarding S.E.X.! 

The people over at BuzzFeed curated a great list to give everyone some good pointers in the bedroom. Check out the article here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/men-share-sex-tips?ref=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_campaign=bfbiobuzzfeed&utm_source=buzzfeed.bio&p_id=96462

Number one is hilarious and yet very creative! 

Remember to be kind to yourself, and get it on!! 
Katelyn 

​Photo Cred: Anna Vander Stel 

So you're ready to take your sexy time to the next level, bring some spiciness to the bedroom. An easy way to do that is with some good beats in the background. 

You may be like me, where making a playlist can be daunting! Well, the people over at Vice curated an awesome list of sex playlists for you to choose from! Click this link to check out the article: https://www.vice.com/en/article/y3pmdv/best-sex-songs-music-playlist-spotify-apple-music-youtube?utm_medium=social&utm_source=vice_facebook&fbclid=IwAR0yH2s5lsf1E5FVh6ojcrZHSguiDDh8oVVKCCOGJsuMQ-NzNLr967C1f2A

I enjoyed the article because it had so many playlists to check out! I personally like the "Ultimate Sex Playlist" on Apple Music. 

What did you choose??

Remember to be kind to yourself, and get it on... with some good music!! 
Katelyn 

Photo cred: Brandon Zack

What's your Naked Truth?? How do you find yo..

I have been curating relationship questions for almost the last 6 months. The reasoning is to really dive deep when it comes to communication within a relationship.

I know personally, for me I tend to over communicate with people and so when it comes to really getting a sense of how someone is really feeling... for me there aren't ever enough questions!!! I want to know everything!! LOL I'd like to thinks it's because I am inquisitive... 

So anyway back on to the relationship questions! I would recommend playing/asking these form of relationship questions, when you have been seeing your partner for at least few months. Not necessarily to be played/asked with a young fresh relationship - especially if one of you hasn't fully gotten in tune with their feelings yet (fella's I'm not picking on you but yeah the fella's are usually the ones that we have to be slow with these questions).

Reason why you would want to wait to ask these questions, is it can be a bit too deep when you really have only dipped your toe into the water of the relationship and not quite sure if you are ready to jump fully in and if you are ready to share all the feelings, just yet! LOL 

So here we go!

1. If you had a superpower what would it be? Teleport, invisible, read minds, see the future 
2. When are you the happiest? 
3. What do think about the idea of “the one”?
4. What’s something you wanted in the past but you don’t anymore? 
5. What something people do in relationships that you don’t want to do in your next relationship? 
6. On a scale from 0-10 how afraid are you of being hurt? 
7. What do you need to improve, learn, or stop doing in order to potentially have a successful romantic relationship? 
8. What is your most toxic trait? 
9. How has fear and Insecurity impacted your past decisions or actions in a romantic relationship? 

Deeper questions: 

1. What do you think connects us? 
2. What are you hesitant to tell me? 
3. What don’t you understand about me? 

Been in a relationship for a while? Here are some questions you can ask if you are in a current long term relationship: 

1. What is the hardest part of our relationship right now? 
2. How do you need to be shown love? 
3. What are the greatest fears tied to our relationship? 
4. Do you think I understand you most of the time? 

I hope you can uncover some positive feedback, nothing but love here!

​Remember to be kind to yourself and your partner... and get it on! 
Katelyn 

Photo Cred: Simone Secci