The purpose of a dildo is really for insertion, either anally or vaginally. You can brush up on your oral skills or you can brush up on your hand job skills. Some dildos have a suction cup base so you can put it on the wall have a good time or you're able to put it in a harness for a strap-on.
The lube that you wanna use depends on the type of toy you own. With a silicone toy you will want to use a water-based lube or oil-based lube. You will not want to use silicone lube on a silicone toy as it breaks down the material.
To wash your toy simply clean it with soap and warm water and let air dry.
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on!!
I really go into detail about this very subject my 21 Keys to Deeper Love program.
But to sum it up for you, let me tell you this: ANYTIME IS THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE SEX! Sex also doesn't always mean penetration. And doesn't mean it has to be the bedroom, it could be in the laundry room, shower, in the car (be aware of your surroundings!). The possibilities are endless...
I found this great article by HuffPost talking all about it! "Is it better to have sex in the morning or at night?"
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on anytime!
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Knowing your turn on and offs can get you to really hone in on what you like.
Whether you are in a relationship or single, we can all get lost in who we are. In a relationship, we morph into a "unit force", and when we are single, we can be a little more open to influence or more closed off depending on our personalities.
When discussing turn-ons and turn-offs, I encourage you to avoid talking about what you don't like and what turns you off. The negative talk can consume you and your partner or potential partner. Instead, we want to be light in the conversation and playful. Why? Because playfulness is sexy!
So how do we find out what characteristics we like? Well, I stumbled upon these interesting and silly quizzes. They are especially interesting because they deal with your turn-ons!
I found one quiz on the buzz feed that tells you what age you are depending on your turn-ons and turn-offs. My results were that I was "19"... funny because I usually tell friends that I'm 19 when they comment about how old we are getting LOL. Check out your Turn-Ons And Turn-Offs Will Determine Your True Age.
I found another quiz on ProProfs.com:
My results were, "Cuddling, Cuddling is a romantic way of showing affection to your loved one. Whenever you do it with him/her, you feel this unusual chills running through your body." I am a big on affection, so this makes total sense LOL.
So I should say, no, I don't think these quizzes are accurate and you shouldn't take them too seriously, BUT I feel it is a great way to talk (to yourself, a friend, or your partner) about what you like and don't like, even laugh on your results.
Please share what you got and if you think it's right!
Remember to be kind to yourself... and know your turn-ons!
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As a clinical sexuality coach, Katelyn works with individuals and couples to help them discover their best sex lives.