 Let’s talk about something I’ve always believed in — kissing. Not just the passionate kind, but the everyday, small-but-mighty kisses that keep us connected to our partner.
According to a recent Vice article (www.vice.com/en/article/couples-who-skip-this-daily-ritual-are-more-likely-to-fall-apart/), couples who don’t kiss regularly are more likely to experience a breakdown in their relationship. And honestly? I’m not surprised. Kissing releases oxytocin, often called the love hormone. It’s the same hormone that helps moms bond with their babies, and it’s responsible for that warm, safe, fuzzy feeling we get when we feel close to someone we love. It helps us build trust, reduce stress, and deepen emotional intimacy. But here's the thing — many couples slowly stop kissing over time. They get caught up in routines, distracted by the stress of work, parenting, or just the general chaos of life. A peck on the cheek becomes optional. A real kiss? Rare. And yet, that daily kiss — even just 10 seconds of real, present connection — could be the very thing holding your relationship together. It’s not about being overly romantic or dramatic. It’s about the micro-moments that say: “I see you. I choose you. I’m here.” When I coach clients who feel disconnected in their relationships, one of the first things I ask is: When was the last time you really kissed your partner? Not a quick goodbye, not a distracted smooch. But a true kiss — one where you stop, breathe, and connect. The Vice article (www.vice.com/en/article/couples-who-skip-this-daily-ritual-are-more-likely-to-fall-apart/) hits on something I’ve seen time and time again — when couples stop kissing, the emotional gap grows. And when kissing comes back? The spark often follows. So here’s my challenge to you: Kiss your partner today. Really kiss them. Not out of habit, but with intention. You’d be amazed at what a daily kiss can unlock — more affection, better communication, and a renewed sense of closeness. It’s a small act, but it speaks volumes. Because love isn't just built in the big moments. It’s built in the daily rituals we choose to keep. Remember to be kind to yourself.. and get some chapstick. Katelyn Photo cred: https://unsplash.com/@speckfechta
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A recent NY Post article (nypost.com/2025/06/07/lifestyle/ozempic-penis-male-users-reveal-shocking-change-to-their-genitalia-after-injecting-weight-loss-shot/) reports that men using Ozempic (and other semaglutide-based injections) for weight loss are claiming… their penises look bigger. Yep. You read that right. Now before you go thinking this is some miracle penis pill in disguise — let’s take a step back. The so-called “growth” is less about actual changes to the organ itself and more about body fat loss. When belly and pubic area fat drops, everything looks more prominent. It’s an illusion of size, not some overnight anatomical miracle. And while some men might be celebrating their new-found confidence, I’ve gotta say it: This Ozempic trend is kinda scary. Don’t get me wrong — I know how powerful confidence is, especially when it comes to love, sex, and how we feel in our bodies. But I also know that there’s no quick fix for self-love, and definitely not for sexual confidence. Semaglutide is a medication originally created for managing diabetes. Now it’s being used off-label for fast weight loss — and while it may seem like a “magic solution,” the side effects are real. Nausea, malnutrition, muscle loss, even the potential for long-term health complications. And now? We’re literally talking about our genitals changing shape as a side effect of beauty culture. Let’s just pause for a second and ask: What are we really chasing? As someone who works with men on building confidence, healing intimacy, and having great sex — I’ll tell you this: No injection will fix what’s missing in your relationship or how you feel about your body. And it definitely won’t create the kind of lasting sexual connection you actually want. Instead of putting your health on the line for aesthetics, try this:
Because the things we do for beauty? They should never cost us our well-being. And penis size? Let’s just say real attraction goes way deeper than that. Remember to be kind to yourself... and your penis Katelyn Photo Cred: https://unsplash.com/@yunmai  Lately, I’ve had a lot of conversations about boundaries — whether it’s with a friend, a family member, or someone you’re in a “situationship” with.
And let me say this loud and clear: You are allowed to protect your energy. We often feel guilty for pulling back or saying no — especially when someone has been close to us. But here’s the truth: just because someone used to be in your inner circle doesn’t mean they get a permanent pass to drain you. There are different levels of closeness in our lives --
But what happens when someone in your inner circle stops showing up for you — emotionally, mentally, energetically — in the way you show up for them? Most of us don’t shift that person to a different level. Instead, we keep giving. Hoping. Over-explaining. And we end up disappointed. Over and over again. Here’s where boundaries come in. According to HelpGuide (www.helpguide.org/relationships/social-connection/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-relationshipsn-relationships), setting healthy boundaries means recognizing your limits, communicating them clearly, and protecting your time, energy, and emotional well-being. It’s not about cutting people off to be cold — it’s about deciding what level of access they get based on how they show up. We need to normalize adjusting someone’s “seat” in our life when they no longer treat us with respect, effort, or care. That doesn’t make you bitter. It makes you wise. And guess what? You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to you. Not a friend who flakes. Not a parent who oversteps. Not someone you’re dating who wants all the benefits without real commitment. Boundaries are not walls — they’re filters. They let in what nourishes you and keep out what drains you. So here’s your reminder: If you keep giving energy and time to someone who doesn’t reciprocate — it’s time to take note. Recenter. Recalibrate. And reassign their role in your life if needed. Because your peace, energy, and emotional clarity are too valuable to waste. Remember to be kind to yourself and protect your energy! Katelyn Photo cred: https://unsplash.com/@erinlarsonphotography  Most men enter relationships with the best intentions. They want to make their partner happy, be the provider, the "man", keep the peace, and avoid unnecessary conflict. But there’s one mistake that many men make—one that slowly chips away at connection, attraction, and intimacy.
The #1 Mistake: Avoiding Emotional Depth A lot of men believe that as long as they’re showing up, paying the bills, or handling responsibilities, the relationship should be fine. But women don’t just want a provider—they want a partner who is present, engaged in the day to day life, and emotionally connected. If your partner seems distant, uninterested, or less affectionate, chances are she’s feeling unseen or emotionally disconnected. The good news? You can fix it. How This Mistake Affects Your Relationship She Feels Unheard: If she opens up and you shut down, change the subject, or offer a quick solution, she may feel like you don’t truly listen. She Starts Pulling Away: When a woman feels emotionally disconnected, her desire for physical intimacy often fades. She starts to detach. You Misinterpret Her Needs: If you assume that solving problems is the same as emotional support, you might be missing what she really needs from you. I get it men want a solution, you are problem solvers... but guess what, sometimes the solution is your ears open and mouth closed (too harsh?). Resentment Builds: If she constantly feels like she’s carrying the emotional weight of the relationship, frustration and resentment can grow. How to Fix It (Without Losing Your Sense of Masculinity) 1. Listen Without Trying to Solve Everything When she shares something that’s bothering her, resist the urge to immediately fix it. Instead, say something like: “That sounds really frustrating. Tell me more about it.” This lets her know that her feelings matter to you. 2. Share What’s on Your Mind A common misconception is that men should keep emotions bottled up to stay strong. But real strength comes from being open. You don’t have to pour your heart out 24/7, but small moments of vulnerability create deep trust. Sometimes this can just be opening up about your day. 3. Make Her Feel Seen and Valued Women want to feel chosen every day, not just in the beginning. Compliment her, show appreciation, and remind her why you fell for her in the first place. A simple “I love how passionate you are about [insert her interest]” can go a long way. 4. Lead With Confidence and Presence Being emotionally available doesn’t mean being passive. It means leading with confidence—making decisions, planning dates, and staying engaged in the relationship. A woman feels safe when she knows you’re present, aware, and engaged. Final Thoughts: Small Shifts, Big Impact The biggest mistake men make in relationships isn’t about money, looks, or status—it’s about emotional connection. The men who have the best relationships aren’t necessarily the richest or best-looking—they’re the ones who show up fully for their partner. If you’re ready to level up your relationship, deepen your connection, and bring back the spark, I can help. Book a one-on-one coaching session today. Remember to be kind yo yourself and PLEASE be emotionally available for your partner LOL Photo cred: https://unsplash.com/@barbaris778  So you felt the chemistry in your relationship.. The connection was strong. But lately, something’s off. She seems distant, uninterested, maybe even pulling away. You’re left wondering: What happened?
The truth is, attraction isn’t just about looks or what you say—it’s about how you make her feel. If she’s losing interest, it’s likely because something in the relationship has shifted, and she’s not feeling as connected, desired, or appreciated as before. But don’t panic—this doesn’t mean the spark is gone for good. Let’s break down why she might be losing interest and what you can do to turn things around. Why She’s Losing Interest 1. Routine Has Replaced Excitement Early on, everything was new. You made an effort. You planned dates, flirted, and surprised her. Over time, things like that fall to the way side. So life has now become predictable, and she might feel like the passion has faded. My go to saying is "Routine isn't sexy!". 2. She Feels Unseen or Unappreciated Women crave emotional connection and recognition. If she’s putting in effort and feels like it’s going unnoticed, she may start withdrawing. Small gestures, a wink, or shoot her some compliments. A genuine appreciation can go a long way here fellas! 3. Lack of Emotional Connection Sexual attraction thrives on emotional intimacy. If conversations have become surface-level or you’ve stopped checking in on her feelings, she may start feeling disconnected. If the connection feels cold, word of advice here - she feels the cold. 4. Neglecting Your Own Growth Confidence, ambition, and self-improvement are attractive. If you’ve stopped prioritizing yourself—your goals, fitness, or passions—it can make the relationship feel stagnant. We want to see our partners in their element, stay true to you. 5. She’s Feeling More Like a Friend Than a Lover If the relationship has fallen into a “roommate” dynamic—more logistics and to-do lists than flirting and fun—she might be missing that romantic spark. How to Reignite the Spark 1. Bring Back Playfulness & Flirting This is where I challenge you to go back to the dating stage in your relationship. Send a teasing text, or tell her how good she smelled or looked this morning. Whisper something unexpected in her ear, or brush past her in the kitchen or hallway, look at her in her eyes. Show her you see her. And don't forget to be silly! Silly is sexy, so make sure to keep the playful energy alive. 2. Surprise Her (In Small but Meaningful Ways) You don’t have to plan a grand gesture—small, thoughtful surprises can have a big impact. A spontaneous date, a heartfelt note, or an unexpected compliment can reignite excitement. This one is so easy but can really go a mile to her heart. 3. Prioritize Quality Time (Without Distractions) Put down the phone. Make eye contact. Listen to her. Whether it’s a date night or just a deep conversation, giving her your full attention makes her feel valued. Even going on spontaneous walk or going to the park, a way to get moving together and talk. 4. Focus on Your Own Confidence & Growth Confidence is sexy. Work on yourself—hit the gym, pursue your goals, challenge yourself. When you feel good about yourself, it naturally makes you more attractive to her. 5. Reconnect Emotionally Ask deeper questions. Share something personal. Show genuine interest in her thoughts and feelings. Emotional connection fuels passion and intimacy. Let the fear go and open up. 6. Turn Up the Physical Intimacy (Outside the Bedroom) Hold her hand. Kiss her for no reason. Touch her back as you walk past. Non-sexual physical connection builds anticipation and makes her feel desired. This builds oxytocin - the love hormone. We all need more love, so get to touchin! My Final Thoughts: She Wants to Feel Chosen At the end of the day, she wants to feel wanted, appreciated, and connected—just like you do. If she’s losing interest, don’t panic. Instead, use this as an opportunity to show up differently and make her feel special again. Want personalized guidance on how to reconnect with your partner and build a stronger, more passionate relationship? Let’s talk. Book a one-on-one Coaching session today. Remember to be kind to yourself and keep it sexy!! LOL Photo cred: https://unsplash.com/@ericjamesward  Struggles with intimacy and connection can happen to anyone, whether you’re in a relationship that’s lost its spark, navigating life after divorce, or frustrated with dating. These challenges can feel isolating—but you don’t have to face them alone.
For the past six years, I’ve worked with men and women to rebuild their confidence, improve intimacy, and create meaningful, lasting connections. While much of my focus is on helping men aged 30 to 60, my coaching is open to anyone looking to strengthen their relationships or prepare for lasting love. Through my one-on-one love and wellness coaching, I provide the tools and support to help you:
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If you’ve hesitated to reach out for help, know that change is possible. You deserve a fulfilling, passionate love life, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way. Commplete my FREE Assessment, and we can schedule a complimentary phone call to discuss how I can help transform your relationships and love life. Remember to be kind to yourself and get some love back into your life! Photo cred: https://unsplash.com/@towfiqu999999  Have you heard about the "We Listen and We Don’t Judge" challenge trending on social media? It’s a practice that’s opening the door to deeper, more meaningful relationships by encouraging couples to share openly without fear of judgment. This era of communication is powerful—I call it the “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” era—but let’s be honest, it can also feel nerve-wracking.
Why? Because when your partner opens up about their past, it can be hard not to let that information shape how you view them in the present. We’ve all made mistakes, faced challenges, and carried baggage. And while unpacking those bags is necessary for growth, it’s important to remember that those experiences don’t define who someone is today. We All Have a Past Think about it: would you want to be judged for something you did years ago? Probably not. The same grace we extend to ourselves needs to be given to our partners. Yes, it’s natural to feel surprised or even unsettled by what you hear, but judging someone for their past is like trying to carry every piece of baggage onto a night flight—it’s unnecessary and exhausting. Instead, focus on the fact that your partner chose you. They’ve worked through their weeds, and you are the flower they’ve decided to cherish. Sure, some weeds might have been “pokier” or thornier than others, but at the end of the day, they were just weeds. You’re the flower here, the one who matters now. Growth Through Understanding The truth is, our past experiences shape us, but they don’t define us. There will be memories and stories that stick with you, and that’s okay. Growth often requires us to face discomfort and move through it together. In a relationship, that means learning how to hold space for each other’s truths without letting them create walls between you. I often remind my single clients, “You have to go through a lot of weeds to get to the flower.” That’s true not just for dating but for building strong, lasting connections. Listening without judgment is part of the process. It’s not about ignoring the past; it’s about acknowledging it, learning from it, and choosing to move forward with love and understanding. How to Embrace the Challenge
Stepping into the “We Listen and We Don’t Judge” era is an act of courage and love. It’s about choosing to see your partner for who they are today, not who they were yesterday. It’s about finding beauty in the flower, not getting stuck on the thorns of the past. So, are you ready to take the challenge? Because the reward—a relationship built on trust, understanding, and unconditional love—is absolutely worth it. Remember to be kind to yourself... and don't judge! Photo Cred: https://unsplash.com/@krakenimages  In the wake of recent elections, political differences are more visible than ever, and feelings of joy, dread, or frustration often spill over into relationships, both online and offline. However, these differences don’t have to damage our connections with friends, colleagues, or partners. Here are some ways to keep your relationships strong, even when you don’t see eye to eye politically. At the end, I’ve also included a meditation for managing political uncertainty, which may be helpful in calming and centering yourself. Focus on the Relationship, Not the Issue When politics come up, try to remember what you value about the person you’re talking with. Political opinions are just one piece of who they are, and chances are there’s more that brings you together than divides you. Listen with Curiosity, Not to Win In conversations about politics, practice listening to understand instead of debating. You don’t have to agree, but asking questions like, “What brought you to that perspective?” can create openness and reduce defensiveness. Set Boundaries to Avoid Unnecessary Conflict If political discussions often lead to tension, consider setting boundaries. It’s okay to say, “I value our relationship too much to let politics get in the way. Can we focus on other topics?” Many people will appreciate the honesty and the effort to prioritize the relationship. Focus on Shared Values Even with differing political views, you may share common values like compassion, fairness, or family. Emphasizing these values can reinforce a sense of unity and remind you of the strengths in your relationship. Practice Empathy—With Yourself and Others Everyone processes political events differently. Give yourself and others grace if emotions run high. If you feel overwhelmed, consider trying this meditation for political uncertainty: youtu.be/jZafU0Nj6Sw?si=4bs-9kYnjuusJ8Vv to help bring calm and perspective. I have embedded it below as well. Agree to Disagree Ultimately, we won’t align on every topic, and that’s okay. Agreeing to disagree is about choosing peace over argument, prioritizing your relationships, and appreciating diverse perspectives as part of the human experience. Final Thoughts Navigating political divides isn’t always easy, but with empathy, listening, and respect, we can preserve the relationships that matter most to us. By choosing connection over conflict, we each have the power to foster understanding—even in a divided world. Remember to be kind to yourself - and keep the convo's classy! Photo cred: unsplash.com/@bmowinkel?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash Here is the meditation for political uncertainty! You have to check it out!  We all know that weekends offer a refreshing break from the workweek, allowing us to relax and be more present. But did you know that the same principle might apply to your love life? A recent study sheds light on how often we should be having sex for optimal well-being, and the findings are both intriguing and actionable.
1. The Power of Presence One key takeaway from the study is the importance of being mentally and emotionally present during intimate moments. Much like how weekends give us a chance to unwind and focus on what really matters, being in the right mindset can significantly enhance the quality of our sexual experiences. When we're not preoccupied with work or stress, we're more likely to enjoy and savor these moments. 2. The Connection Between Porn and Sexual Satisfaction Interestingly, the study also touches on how our consumption of porn can impact our sexual enjoyment. It turns out that those who frequently engage with explicit content might find their sexual experiences more satisfying. This is likely because their minds are primed and their 'engines' are revved up. However, it's important to note that this doesn’t mean porn is a substitute for real-life intimacy. 3. The Impact of Frequency on Relationships and Health Another crucial insight from the study is the relationship between sexual frequency and overall well-being. People who engage in sexual activity at least once a week tend to experience better relationship satisfaction and physical health. This frequency seems to be a sweet spot that balances emotional connection and physical benefits. 4. Heart Health and Sexual Health: An Intricate Connection The study also highlights a fascinating connection: what’s good for the heart is often good for the penis. Engaging in regular sexual activity is linked with cardiovascular health, demonstrating that our sexual well-being is intertwined with our overall physical health. It’s a reminder that maintaining a healthy sex life is not just about pleasure but also about nurturing our bodies. In summary, this study underscores the importance of both the frequency and quality of our intimate moments. Whether it's the mental clarity of a weekend or the physical benefits of regular sexual activity, staying present and engaged in our love lives is crucial for our overall well-being. So, take a moment to appreciate the connection between heart and libido, and maybe even schedule a few more date nights! For more details on the study and its findings, check out the full article on the New York Post here: nypost.com/2024/09/12/lifestyle/the-ideal-amount-of-time-to-spend-having-sex-revealed-in-new-study/ Remember to be kind to your self and get it on! Katelyn Photo Cred: Nicole Bomar: https://unsplash.com/@nicolebomar  A recent study aimed to uncover the ideal penis size according to women, surveying 800 participants. While the results are intriguing, they come with important considerations. Here’s a quick rundown of what the study reveals and what it means for you.
1. Study Highlights The study suggests a preference for a specific penis size among women. However, with over 7 billion people globally, 800 participants represent a small fraction, so these findings might not be universally applicable. 2. Individual Preferences Vary Just like people have diverse tastes in food, sexual preferences vary widely. What one person finds ideal might not be the same for another. This study offers a general view but doesn’t capture every individual’s preference. 3. Approach Research with Caution Always consider the context and limitations of any study. While this research provides interesting insights, it’s just one piece of the puzzle. Personal experiences and individual preferences are what truly matter. 4. Critical Thinking is Key Understand who conducted the research, how the sample was chosen, and potential biases. Use these findings as a starting point rather than definitive answers. In summary, while the study offers some fascinating insights, remember that individual preferences are diverse. Take such studies with a grain of salt and focus on what works best for you. For more details, check out the full article on the New York Post here: nypost.com/2024/09/07/lifestyle/the-ideal-penis-size-revealed-according-to-women-the-answer-will-shock-you/ Remember to be kind to your self, be you and consider the source! LOL Katelyn Photo credit: https://unsplash.com/@siora18 |
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