So I recently wrote a post about going to a sex club. Well there is a great Sex Club in Las Vegas that I highly suggest. It is called the Green Door. When I went I had a really great experience and made some friends!
One of those friends is Nacho, who is a long time patron of the club. He definently knows his way around this sex club business and even has a podcast inside the Green Door. Make sure you check it out on Youtube.
I got to ask Nacho for some helpful tips for a single male first timer coming to the Green Door. I really think these helpful tips are a must read for anyone thinking of going to a sex club.
Ideal times to go (or cum :)) to the Green Door:
Fridays and Saturdays are the best days to go. It doesn't get busy until about midnight. But the recommendation would be to arrive around 10:30pm and walk around to get familiar with the club.
Advice for a single first timer?
If you’re a talkative person and not afraid to approach people. Then take that approach and don't be afraid to introduce.
The longer you can have a conversation without talking about sex, the sexpert feels, have the highest chance on getting lucky.
If you’re not a talker, that's ok as well. But if you go the quite route, walk around, a lot of times, you'll walk right into an opportunity.
What do you talk about?
A typical conversation lasts usually around the 5-8 minutes frame. Then after that, you can just be honest. You can say something like “what you’re looking for?” and ask to play.
Asking is key:
Once you have had a nice conversation. You will always want to ask before doing. Ask to touch and ask to play - not to have sex. The word “Play” is a gentler word and ultimately a gentler way of asking do you wanna have sex.
Don’t forget to bring condoms, you never know what will happen. So it’s best to be prepared.
Remember to be kind to yourself... and book a trip to the Green Door in LV!
Photo Cred: The Green Door
I often have clients ask me, "Katelyn how can I discover more of my sexuality?" - without the possible burden of signing up for a monthly service, getting into something that might be over my head, or hunting out a local "rub n tug" salon - which is possibly breaking the law in most states.
My answer... "Go to a sex club". Where this could be a little intimating for some, I think, with the right guidance - it could be just what you need!
If you found yourself growing up in an area where sex was suppressed and not talked about. You can grow up feeling that your life isn't up to its fullest potential, thinking your relationship - just isn't up to par. Or you long for something more. A sex club can really open your eyes to the world of sex and then intern you get to find out "Hey, I might want to try that!".
Some of my clients have asked me "What did you feel when you were there?". I respond with "I felt understood!". Just like with anything in this world - these things should be done in moderation, but it was an experience I suggest everyone that lived a suppressed life and feels the need for more, should visit a sex club. And of course everyone will experience something different but I hope your experience was as good as mine! Another tip would be do go with an open mind, and no expectations.
Sex is such a freeing experience and when people are doing it all around you all at once... that feeling is pretty liberating. Kind of like you finally cracked the code of that box you were put in growing up. The unspoken box of shame.
We are adults now that box is no longer needed to control us. We can make those decisions ourselves and leave the judgment of everyone else to the way side. Because those peoples opinion doesn't matter!
Say it out loud: "People's opinion's of me doesn't matter!"
I hope this helps your journey, but if you want to know more, contact me!! I am happy to help you in your journey to self discovery.
I LOVE YOU!
Remember to be kind to yourself... and book your trip to a sex club!!
Photo Cred: Liam McGarry
The morning quickie... what a dream, right?! It boosts dopamine and oxytocin, making you feel like a million bucks for the rest of the day! Well, that is if you can get in the mood!
Some studies have even calculated that women climax easier in the morning rather than throughout the day... maybe because there is less on the mind?
Whether you are a sex pistol or as dry as a door knob in the morning, the people over at Lifestyle Asia stumbled upon "Sex Coffee". For coffee lovers, this is a win! It is coffee that is infused with Maca Root. Check out the full article about sex coffee here: https://www.lifestyleasia.com/hk/living/wellness/give-your-morning-coffee-a-sex-twist-with-sex-coffee/
Maca Root has many health benefits, and raising one's libido is one of the top health benefits. Here is the article from Healthline that you can read up on the erotic root: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/benefits-of-maca-root#1.-May-increase-libido
Whatever you choose to indulge in, make sure you keep in sexy, classy, and silly... those three ingredients are also a sure way to get in the mood a little more.
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on... and maybe drink some sex coffee :)
Photo Cred: Lifestyle Asia
Even if you are married or have been in a long-term relationship. It is still so important to keep passion and desire alive. An easy way to do that is with the classic "Date Night".
CNN actually wrote an article that has some great tips and tricks for creating a Check it out here: https://www.cnn.com/2022/05/30/health/date-night-returns-relationship-wellness/index.html
I really liked the idea of a sleepover night. It got my ideas of what different things you can do on a blow-up mattress in the front room! (make sure the kids are gone for that night!) LOL
The biggest thing I can say is make sure you kiss each other a few times during the date. This releases the love hormone (oxytocin) which is a great way to bond with your partner!
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on... and make a date night!
Photo Cred: Hitesh Dewasi
So you're ready to take your sexy time to the next level, bring some spiciness to the bedroom. An easy way to do that is with some good beats in the background.
You may be like me, where making a playlist can be daunting! Well, the people over at Vice curated an awesome list of sex playlists for you to choose from! Click this link to check out the article: https://www.vice.com/en/article/y3pmdv/best-sex-songs-music-playlist-spotify-apple-music-youtube?utm_medium=social&utm_source=vice_facebook&fbclid=IwAR0yH2s5lsf1E5FVh6ojcrZHSguiDDh8oVVKCCOGJsuMQ-NzNLr967C1f2A
I enjoyed the article because it had so many playlists to check out! I personally like the "Ultimate Sex Playlist" on Apple Music.
What did you choose??
Remember to be kind to yourself, and get it on... with some good music!!
Photo cred: Brandon Zack
I really go into detail about this very subject my 21 Keys to Deeper Love program.
But to sum it up for you, let me tell you this: ANYTIME IS THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE SEX! Sex also doesn't always mean penetration. And doesn't mean it has to be the bedroom, it could be in the laundry room, shower, in the car (be aware of your surroundings!). The possibilities are endless...
I found this great article by HuffPost talking all about it! "Is it better to have sex in the morning or at night?"
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on anytime!
Photo: Lukas Blazek
Knowing your turn on and offs can get you to really hone in on what you like.
Whether you are in a relationship or single, we can all get lost in who we are. In a relationship, we morph into a "unit force", and when we are single, we can be a little more open to influence or more closed off depending on our personalities.
When discussing turn-ons and turn-offs, I encourage you to avoid talking about what you don't like and what turns you off. The negative talk can consume you and your partner or potential partner. Instead, we want to be light in the conversation and playful. Why? Because playfulness is sexy!
So how do we find out what characteristics we like? Well, I stumbled upon these interesting and silly quizzes. They are especially interesting because they deal with your turn-ons!
I found one quiz on the buzz feed that tells you what age you are depending on your turn-ons and turn-offs. My results were that I was "19"... funny because I usually tell friends that I'm 19 when they comment about how old we are getting LOL. Check out your Turn-Ons And Turn-Offs Will Determine Your True Age.
I found another quiz on ProProfs.com:
My results were, "Cuddling, Cuddling is a romantic way of showing affection to your loved one. Whenever you do it with him/her, you feel this unusual chills running through your body." I am a big on affection, so this makes total sense LOL.
So I should say, no, I don't think these quizzes are accurate and you shouldn't take them too seriously, BUT I feel it is a great way to talk (to yourself, a friend, or your partner) about what you like and don't like, even laugh on your results.
Please share what you got and if you think it's right!
Remember to be kind to yourself... and know your turn-ons!
Photo by: elnaz asadi
Now that we have almost spent all of our tax return money... or still upset with the IRS. Let's talk about you and your "Bae" going out for a lovely evening out!
What about the money situation?! Date nights can be expensive, and many of us are "ballin on a budget"! LOL
So came up with some tips for cheap date nights:
Netflix and Chill? - Yeah, staying in can be fun! So switch it up, make a bed on the floor, get some favorite snacks or get your favorite tacos from the local taco truck down the street, and curl up and watch a comedy. Maybe you want a sexy option? Still make a bed on the floor, but this party's attire is bra and underwear ONLY. Pick a sexy movie like Basic Instinct, Cruel Intentions, Love and Basketball, or Wild Things (I think I might be stuck in the '90s, but these are some classics!).
Game Night - Need some games or other fun activities? Check out some games I made or check out some other objects that you can introduce in the bedroom. :)
Watch A Sunrise Or Sunset - Fact! The most beautiful show is right above of us! So seize the moment and take your lovey on a road trip to find the best view in your town to watch a sunrise or sunset.
Stargazing With Your Boo - Like watching a sunset, go outside once it's dark with a lawn chair and a blanket and look up! Check out this article for some best stargazing apps to help you find the best location and help you navigate the night sky!: https://www.space.com/best-stargazing-apps
Want some more tips?? Check out this Forbes article I found on how to plan a date on a budget: https://www.forbes.com/advisor/banking/how-to-plan-a-budgeting-date-night-with-your-spouse/
Remember to be kind to yourself... and be a cheap date!
Photo: Heather Ford
New Year's is just around the corner, do you have your New Year's kiss planned out?
Well I got some helpful tips and tricks to figure out the full art of kissing!
The history and culture around kissing
The first kiss was recorded back in 1500 BC. It was thought of as a sniff or a smell. Which makes sense when we think about smelling things today. We can be totally turned on if we smell something we really like. Let’s say a good looking person walks by you, as they pass you get a whiff of them. And it is a rush, and say to yourself “hey come back!”.
90% of cultures in the world kiss. Some research says it is instinct and some say it’s a learned behavior. All in all, science is still learning about the world of sex .. and kissing.
What we do know is when we kiss testosterone is exchanged. Our cheeks actually have cells that suck this testosterone up and it gets sent to the brain. This could be a reason why men like sloppier kisses, because he is trying to trigger the woman to get “in the mood”. A first kiss can give us a rush of dopamine. Our pupils also dilate, so that could be why we close our eyes while kissing.
Kissing is so many things. Kissing can be used as a deep attachment, like if your mom kisses you on the lips. A kiss could be a romantic kiss, like when you had a romantic date and it’s a good night kiss. A kiss could also be a sexual kiss that has passion and really gets you “in the
Kissing actually can reduce the cortisol in the body, which is the stress hormone. So kissing can really help with our long-term health.
Oxytocin (the love hormone), is released during kissing. Foreplay and an orgasm is also believed to increase that bonding connection with couples.
One of us doesn't like to kiss...
Do you ever feel like you don’t want to kiss, because you may feel like there is agenda with it? A fun activity would be to ask your partner how they like to kiss. Because you both have different techniques, so it’s important to discuss it. Just like we should be discussing sex.
So what if your partner doesn’t like kissing, but you love it! What do you do? Well if kissing is a need for one of you and that partner is feeling incomplete without kissing, the “kissless” partner’s needs are not being met. So some compromising needs to happen with the partner that doesn’t like to kiss.
What do I say?
Discuss with your partner what types of kisses they like, do they like chapstick or lip gloss or lipstick. Most men find those bold red lips are attractive and some don’t. So find out what your partner likes. Maybe you are a lip gloss fiend but your partner really doesn’t like kissing you with your lip gloss on. Compromise - do a quick wipe of your lips before you lay one on them.
Another activity is to start making out without the expectation of sex. You could be surprised what kissing puts you in the mood for. If sex happens, that’s even better, but it might be the wrong time for sex. After a good make-out session, the anticipation and mystery of sex can really bring that dopamine level up. It will give you that feeling of craving your partner.
Not sure what kind of kiss to do?
The folks over at mindbodygreen.com, came up with a great article describing 20 different types of kisses!
Here are some other activities you can play to get the mood going!
The take-away for today is to start talking about kissing with your partner and to maybe get some good chapstick...
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on!
📷: Tim Mossholder
Let’s talk about having a stress-free Valentine’s Day! Valentine's Day started in the year 496 and was celebrated for the coming of spring.
Now, let's talk about stress. Cortisol is the stress hormone and that's the feeling when you’re stressed, anxious and all of those horrible feelings that you feel when you’re overwhelmed.
How to counteract stress is more oxytocin. Oxytocin is the love hormone. It's that warm and fuzzy feeling inside and how you get that is with kissing and hugging... AND orgasms.
This Vday, make sure you get the love going!! Either with yourself or with your partner!
If you have someone on Valentine's make sure you get a gift on my website!! I have a variety of Valentine's Gift Sets available.
I hope you have a fantastic Valentine’s Day filled with love and passionate to get that "love flowing"!
Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on!!
Photo: Christina Branco
As a clinical sexuality coach, Katelyn works with individuals and couples to help them discover their best sex lives.