How do we make more time for ourselves and our partners? My favorite saying to tell someone that is hyped up on the busyness of life is to "stop and smell the roses"... Even if there aren't any roses to smell, you have to stop and take a moment to breathe.
Our souls crave to savor the moments—small moments in time that we take for granted. You could be enjoying your breakfast in the morning or enjoying the view on the way to work. Having little moments like this will help us embrace more love in our lives.
How we can help ourselves make time for love is vital. Some simple tips would be to block out time on your calendar for your own "me time" and make sure you keep those appointments. What do you do with this "me time" on your calendar? Well, I have some ideas...
End work at a specific time of day. Now that our smartphones are attached to us 24/7, it's easy to get pinged and get roped back into work after 5pm. Make sure you make a hard stop, so once you "clock out" you are done for the day.
Plan a kid-free adventure once a week. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant. Maybe it's just going to the grocery store together, which can be made fun and make sure to hold hands!
Planning a walk by yourself can allow you to make some "me time" happen and "walk" through your problems. Think about those things that don't get a lot of attention. This will help you release some emotions that you may feel towards your relationship or your current situation. Not to mention breathing in some fresh air and getting some vitamin D is great for our sex organs!
Start to make it a habit to meditate each day. You can do this really at any time, but most people like to meditate either in the morning or when going to bed. Allowing yourself time to unwind and short through thoughts can really make your mind clear. And that is the biggest way you can "stop and smell the roses".
Journaling is also a great way to "stop and smell the roses". It can give you a platform to open up and let it out! This can help you release those locked up emotions and be vulnerable with yourself.
Most of my clients tell me that the biggest takeaway after we meet is that they need to remember to check in with each other and slow down and to remember to "stop and smell the roses".
So here is your action item today: "stop and smell the roses"!
Remember to be kind to yourself today and get it on!
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As a clinical sexuality coach, Katelyn works with individuals and couples to help them discover their best sex lives.