Knowing your turn on and offs can get you to really hone in on what you like. Whether you are in a relationship or single, we can all get lost in who we are. In a relationship, we morph into a "unit force", and when we are single, we can be a little more open to influence or more closed off depending on our personalities. When discussing turn-ons and turn-offs, I encourage you to avoid talking about what you don't like and what turns you off. The negative talk can consume you and your partner or potential partner. Instead, we want to be light in the conversation and playful. Why? Because playfulness is sexy! So how do we find out what characteristics we like? Well, I stumbled upon these interesting and silly quizzes. They are especially interesting because they deal with your turn-ons! I found one quiz on the buzz feed that tells you what age you are depending on your turn-ons and turn-offs. My results were that I was "19"... funny because I usually tell friends that I'm 19 when they comment about how old we are getting LOL. Check out your Turn-Ons And Turn-Offs Will Determine Your True Age. I found another quiz on ProProfs.com: https://www.proprofs.com/quiz-school/story.php. My results were, "Cuddling, Cuddling is a romantic way of showing affection to your loved one. Whenever you do it with him/her, you feel this unusual chills running through your body." I am a big on affection, so this makes total sense LOL. So I should say, no, I don't think these quizzes are accurate and you shouldn't take them too seriously, BUT I feel it is a great way to talk (to yourself, a friend, or your partner) about what you like and don't like, even laugh on your results. Please share what you got and if you think it's right! Remember to be kind to yourself... and know your turn-ons! Photo by: elnaz asadi
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I have a lot of male clients that ask, "What's the average size penis?", "What is the size of penis women like?" and "How do I make my penis bigger?". These are some big questions to answer! Because every BODY is different. First and foremost, the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft). Here are some tips on how to correctly measure your penis Now, what if you don't measure up among the average male? Or maybe you strive to be the biggest and baddest dude among your crew. Well, there is help out there for you! Here are some fun tools for your bigger penis toolbox. Entry-level Options: Pouch Contouring Boxer Briefs: Now, if women can wear butt and boob lifting garments, why can't guys wear the briefs that make them look like they are packin' a 12 pack of hotdogs in their underwear? This is a great way to boost confidence by boosting your member's appearance – both in size and shape every day! How it works: The unique technology of these briefs is a 3D pouch where you can nest your member and his two friends nicely and in separate compartments. This is also called "penis packing," – where you would put the shaft of your penis on one side of the pocket compartment, and the other side, pack the scrotum. The fabric of these briefs is breathable and doesn't wedge in the backside… and the best part is Amazon sells them! Cock Rings: I am a big advocate for cock rings! Because this is the fastest and easiest way to get a stronger, longer, and harder erection… three keywords when thinking about a stiff penis. How it works: You would stretch the cock ring over the erect penis down to the base of the penis. Alternative wearing options: you can stretch it over to the base of an erect penis and around the base scrotum or just around the scrotum. The cock rings I sell on my website are some of my hot ticket items. But being in the cock ring selling biz, I know that there isn't a one-size-fits-all, unfortunately, and usually rings only have two sizes – regular and XL. Eddie is a fabulous product if you want more of a customized fit for your cock ring. This is more specialized for a personalized fit, and it is oval-shaped rather than circular (which is the shape of all other cock rings). Check Eddie out right now! More Advanced Options: Penis Sheath Extender: This is fantastic for a quick extension for your member – both with length and girth. How it works: It is a silicone sleeve that stretches over the shaft of the penis and wraps around the scrotum – acting like a cock ring around the scrotum. Inside the sheath will be ridges, which is also pleasurable for the one wearing it. The sheath extenders I sell on my website are great because they are made of a body-safe material – so you and your partner don't need to worry about getting an infection from cheap sex toys. Check out all the details here. Penis Pump: Now, these are great to get you rock hard and "swol". Results vary depending on the individual. After several months of regular use, some users have reported gains with a noticeably increased length/ girth. How to use: Instructions vary on which pump you buy. The ones on my website are great with suction and use water. Here is the pump I recommend on my site. IMPORTANT: Be sure to get a pump with a quick-release feature. If things go south, you can have an immediate release to save your member from getting damaged. For more permanent changes: There are surgical procedures and even exercises that you can perform, but there are some terrible side effects, such as penile injury and erectile dysfunction. So without damaging your penis, I would say the best route is more of easy, quick remedies and general body acceptance. We still have not discussed "What is the size of penis women like?". I think you have a lot of items to do homework on already, so check out my other blog post on this very subject when you have some more time! Moral of the story is this: Make your sex an experience. Work your member like it's the biggest and baddest in the land! Because confidence is one of the best ingredients for getting your partner to experience new levels of orgasms! I hope this helps on your journey to being the biggest, baddest, and "swollest" man you can be! Remember to be kind to yourself and keep it hard! Katelyn Photo by: charlesdeluvio Did you know the average size penis is about 5 inches long (base to tip) and about 4 inches in girth (around the largest part of the shaft)? So do you measure up?? Here are some tips to help you correctly measure your member.
Photo by: Diana Polekhina Diana Polekhina Resize image I get asked a lot "What is the size of penis women like?". Well, again, I answer that with, every BODY is different. The quick answer is most women's nerve endings are only about two inches up the vaginal canal – meaning bigger sometimes doesn't mean anything other than a guy with a big sausage, which can be intimidating for some women. Another general observation is that the girth of one's member is more important to a gal rather than how long his member is. A cock ring, sheath extender, or a penis pump can quickly fix all that. Fun Fact: You can get most girls off by outer clitoral stimulation and/or with one or two fingers inserted in the vagina using a "come here" finger motion. With women's vaginas, we are all built differently. So it's important to check in with your partner and see if they like what you are doing. Also, stay in the moment with your partner and do not think about how small your member is and that your partner is probably not into it. Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on! Katelyn Photo by: Sharon McCutcheon Now that we have almost spent all of our tax return money... or still upset with the IRS. Let's talk about you and your "Bae" going out for a lovely evening out! WAIT! What about the money situation?! Date nights can be expensive, and many of us are "ballin on a budget"! LOL So came up with some tips for cheap date nights: Netflix and Chill? - Yeah, staying in can be fun! So switch it up, make a bed on the floor, get some favorite snacks or get your favorite tacos from the local taco truck down the street, and curl up and watch a comedy. Maybe you want a sexy option? Still make a bed on the floor, but this party's attire is bra and underwear ONLY. Pick a sexy movie like Basic Instinct, Cruel Intentions, Love and Basketball, or Wild Things (I think I might be stuck in the '90s, but these are some classics!). Game Night - Need some games or other fun activities? Check out some games I made or check out some other objects that you can introduce in the bedroom. :) Watch A Sunrise Or Sunset - Fact! The most beautiful show is right above of us! So seize the moment and take your lovey on a road trip to find the best view in your town to watch a sunrise or sunset. Stargazing With Your Boo - Like watching a sunset, go outside once it's dark with a lawn chair and a blanket and look up! Check out this article for some best stargazing apps to help you find the best location and help you navigate the night sky!: https://www.space.com/best-stargazing-apps Want some more tips?? Check out this Forbes article I found on how to plan a date on a budget: https://www.forbes.com/advisor/banking/how-to-plan-a-budgeting-date-night-with-your-spouse/ Remember to be kind to yourself... and be a cheap date! Katelyn Photo: Heather Ford Hi Everyone! I am so excited to share this amazing website and marketing tool for your online business. This tool is your ONE resource that will give you everything you need - web hosting, email hosting, e-commerce, blog, landing pages and other marketing tools for videos and membership products…. you gotta see it for yourself! YOU MUST ACT TODAY (2/3/2022)!!! New Year's is just around the corner, do you have your New Year's kiss planned out? Well I got some helpful tips and tricks to figure out the full art of kissing! The history and culture around kissing The first kiss was recorded back in 1500 BC. It was thought of as a sniff or a smell. Which makes sense when we think about smelling things today. We can be totally turned on if we smell something we really like. Let’s say a good looking person walks by you, as they pass you get a whiff of them. And it is a rush, and say to yourself “hey come back!”. 90% of cultures in the world kiss. Some research says it is instinct and some say it’s a learned behavior. All in all, science is still learning about the world of sex .. and kissing. What we do know is when we kiss testosterone is exchanged. Our cheeks actually have cells that suck this testosterone up and it gets sent to the brain. This could be a reason why men like sloppier kisses, because he is trying to trigger the woman to get “in the mood”. A first kiss can give us a rush of dopamine. Our pupils also dilate, so that could be why we close our eyes while kissing. Kissing is so many things. Kissing can be used as a deep attachment, like if your mom kisses you on the lips. A kiss could be a romantic kiss, like when you had a romantic date and it’s a good night kiss. A kiss could also be a sexual kiss that has passion and really gets you “in the mood.” Kissing actually can reduce the cortisol in the body, which is the stress hormone. So kissing can really help with our long-term health. Oxytocin (the love hormone), is released during kissing. Foreplay and an orgasm is also believed to increase that bonding connection with couples. One of us doesn't like to kiss... Do you ever feel like you don’t want to kiss, because you may feel like there is agenda with it? A fun activity would be to ask your partner how they like to kiss. Because you both have different techniques, so it’s important to discuss it. Just like we should be discussing sex. So what if your partner doesn’t like kissing, but you love it! What do you do? Well if kissing is a need for one of you and that partner is feeling incomplete without kissing, the “kissless” partner’s needs are not being met. So some compromising needs to happen with the partner that doesn’t like to kiss. What do I say? Discuss with your partner what types of kisses they like, do they like chapstick or lip gloss or lipstick. Most men find those bold red lips are attractive and some don’t. So find out what your partner likes. Maybe you are a lip gloss fiend but your partner really doesn’t like kissing you with your lip gloss on. Compromise - do a quick wipe of your lips before you lay one on them. Another activity is to start making out without the expectation of sex. You could be surprised what kissing puts you in the mood for. If sex happens, that’s even better, but it might be the wrong time for sex. After a good make-out session, the anticipation and mystery of sex can really bring that dopamine level up. It will give you that feeling of craving your partner. Not sure what kind of kiss to do? The folks over at mindbodygreen.com, came up with a great article describing 20 different types of kisses! Here are some other activities you can play to get the mood going!
The take-away for today is to start talking about kissing with your partner and to maybe get some good chapstick... Remember to be kind to yourself and get it on! Katelyn 📷: Tim Mossholder |
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